Two blokes who are managing to ‘move on’ in very different ways

Monday 16 June 2014

After just a week or two, friends lose patience with sadness and depression. “You must move on,” they tell us sincerely. “You owe it to yourself to make a new and better life.”

I’ve often noticed that men “move on” much quicker than women after a break-up caused by divorce or death. Sir Paul McCartney, so blissfully married to his Linda before she died of breast cancer, married Heather Mills not too long after.

Of course marrying Heather was a disaster but his subsequent wife Nancy has apparently successfully filled Linda’s shoes.

Obviously if you’re a rich and famous man and suddenly find yourself single the world’s your oyster as Sir Mick Jagger has been proving this week.

Less than three months after the suicide of his lover, fashion designer L’Wren Scott, he is back on tour with the Stones and proving there’s libidinous life in the old rocker yet, being pictured on hotel balconies and elsewhere with a series of nubile young women and looking, frankly, happy as Larry.

And then there’s Charles Saatchi. A few short months since the spectacular implosion of his marriage to Nigella Lawson, in the most painfully public way possible (her in court, being forced to admit taking drugs thanks to Saatchi’s note to that effect given to police, which he afterwards “regretted making public”. Ha!)

He is now with Trinny Woodall, and making sure the world and the paparazzi all know it – flagrantly lunching with Trinny at exactly the same outside restaurant table at which he was pictured with his hand on Nigella’s throat.

What are we to make of this? That the man’s a monster? Quite possibly, and extraordinarily arrogant too. But we’re told by Trinny’s sister the pair are “deeply in love”. You will remember Saatchi saying in court that he and Nigella shared “a great love” that was very deep.

Yuck. At least Jagger has never pretended to be anything better than he is: a rock-god, selfish and unable to live without the sexual attentions of thousands of women. He described Scott as his “lover” but never said he loved her.

Saatchi on the other hand has to claim the moral high ground to demonstrate that he’s still capable of winning the affections of a high?profile woman such as Trinny, even though the wounded Nigella quite clearly loathes him.

I know which man I think deserves more respect.

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  • Hmm. I think we all grieve in different ways and there is no "set length of time" we should grieve before finding happiness with someone else. I'm lucky never to have been in this situation and don't believe in judging people on something I don't understand.

    Sarah

  • What are we to make of it? Nothing - it's not anybody's business what these men choose to do - why do the press need to make villains out of them? I don't actually think it's fair to compare a man who has left an unhappy relationship and a man whose partner killed herself.

    Jill